Breaking Gave Her More Than a New Dance Style — It Helped Her Break Through in Life

A Journey of Dance, Healing, and Self-Discovery

Melissa “Bgirl MEL” Adao’s journey began with a simple dream: to go to school, study dance, and become a dancer. Over the years, this path evolved into something far more complex and meaningful. From her early days in high school, where she joined the show choir, to earning degrees in dance at San Diego State University and Cal State Long Beach, Melissa has always been driven by a passion for movement. She expanded her skills beyond hip hop and musical theater, adding ballet, jazz, and modern dance to her repertoire.

Her career took off when she secured an agent with a dance talent agency in Los Angeles. Working with notable names such as the late Lisa “Left Eye” Lopes of TLC, Andy Dick, and Nickelodeon, Melissa built a reputation in the entertainment industry. However, it wasn’t until her late 30s that she discovered breaking, a form of dance that would become central to her identity and personal growth.

Breaking as a Path to Healing

As a dancer, choreographer, and educator for over 20 years, Melissa has taught at several institutions, including San Diego Mesa College, MiraCosta College, and Grossmont College. Her dedication to dance extends beyond the classroom—she is also the co-founder of The Confident Dancers, an online program designed to teach adults over 30 how to learn dance skills and build confidence.

Melissa recently shared insights about breaking and its role in her healing process. She explained that while she loved performing and the validation it brought, she struggled with self-worth and external validation. This need for recognition stemmed from a lack of love and support from her family growing up. For her, dancing became a way to feel seen, heard, and important.

In her late 30s, Melissa began exploring breaking, which introduced her to new challenges and emotional revelations. Through therapy and self-reflection, she realized that her obsession with winning was tied to a deep-seated need for love and acceptance. Breaking became a tool for self-discovery, helping her shift from relying on external validation to embracing self-love.

The Power of Mindset and Resilience

One of the most significant moments in Melissa’s breaking journey was learning the windmill, a foundational power move. It took her two years to master it, and during that time, she faced frustration and self-doubt. However, she learned to focus on progress rather than perfection. Instead of fixating on what she couldn’t do, she celebrated small victories, such as improved backspins or stronger core strength. This mindset shift allowed her to approach training with gratitude and resilience.

Melissa also emphasized the importance of vulnerability in breaking. While many breakers share highlights of their skills, she chose to share her journey, including the struggles and setbacks. This openness not only helped her heal but also connected her with others who could relate to her experiences.

The Breaking Community and Cultural Significance

Melissa described the breaking community as welcoming and supportive. Despite her initial self-criticism, she found a space where she could grow and contribute. She stressed the cultural significance of breaking, noting that it originated in the Bronx in the 1970s as a Black-rooted dance form. Today, breaking has become a global phenomenon, but Melissa remains committed to preserving its roots and ensuring it is respected.

SamaFest Breakin’ Battle and More

This weekend, Melissa will be emceeing the first SamaFest Breakin’ Battle, part of the 38th annual SamaFest Philippine cultural arts festival in Balboa Park. The event features a unique format, with a 60-minute jam that includes cipher preliminaries and a bracket-style competition. Judges will select top breakers from both adult and youth categories, leading to a final showdown.

When asked about what she looks for in a competitor, Melissa emphasized the importance of understanding the fundamentals of breaking—top rock, footwork, freezes, and style. She believes that true breaking requires a deep connection to the music and a solid foundation in the dance.

The Confident Dancers and Beyond

The Confident Dancers, the online program she co-founded, was inspired by her experience teaching adults. Seeing students transform through dance motivated her to bring that same impact online. Many of her students have gone on to perform at major events, including the Super Bowl halftime show, proving that dance can change lives.

Melissa’s advice to others is simple: know when to say no. She learned this the hard way after a physical breakdown in 2009, caused by overcommitting and ignoring her body’s signals. Now, she prioritizes balance and self-care.

A Personal Reflection

When asked what people might be surprised to learn about her, Melissa simply said, “I’m 46 and I’m a bgirl.” Her ideal San Diego weekend? Doing nothing, eating what she wants, and having no schedule. For Melissa, sometimes the best way to recharge is to take a step back and enjoy the moment.